Monday, December 15, 2008

Zen Husband

Zen and Buddhism (or Zen Buddhism) has been constantly misconstrued and mistaken for a religion ascribing to a certain religious philosophy. Truth be told, a friend who practices Zen gently explained to me that it is a way of life...simply a choice to live life in the most harmonious of ways possible. My brother, though staunchly Roman Catholic, has somewhat chosen to walk the path to marital harmony in Zen fashion. Being married for 18 years, he has earned the right to be called a master who is well versed in the art of harmonizing marriage with special yet modified attention on the shopping activities of his significant other. I've a lot to learn (or unlearn) from him. It goes without saying he has mastered the Jedi-like skill of subliminally saying "Yes, dear!" while actually saying "Naaah, I'll pass on that, dear". His comment on my previous post is too good to pass up as it is post-worthy by itself. Chris Butler, a.k.a. Jagad Guru would be proud. His take: "Husbands with ten years or more on-the-job training usually enlist the enthusiasm of his wife's niece, ex-classmate, sis-in-law or relatives to that effect, who has the same mindset or common agenda to burn the aisles at Divi mall or 168. The game plan should be to identify a drop off and pick up point, which would be utilized at a pre-determined time, or at their beck and calling... give or take a few minutes after the much awaited SMS is received... A neophyte hubby, of course is still alien to this technique or still bashful to say the risky lines "see you in a couple of hours honey... text na lang!"

2 comments:

jogas357 said...

Have been in a state of marital bliss for 19.5 years to date and not 18 as mentioned (although the first fruit of our love is now 18 years young)... and Jagat Guru aka. Chris Butler would rather be called SIDHASWARU PANANDA PARAMAHAMSA.

Ziggy said...

Unlike your brother who uses "Jedi-like skills", I use the "act-dumb-you-didn't-hear-what-she-said-quickly-change-the-topic" tactic. And I swear it works! Just don't expect something for Christmas because she'll employ the same tactic.

Have a Merry Christmas Mr. Hopialikeit!